There are days when doubts plague my consciousness and make me ask questions that I do not have answers for.
I wonder if sometimes, I'm not putting too much out there? On my blog I mean. Like some cynics on the web keep reiterating that privacy is dead. I've got nothing much to lose if anyone in his right mind decides to hack my system but the inconvenience of it all is what bothers me. My skin is thick enough for me to easily and quickly pick up the pieces and start all over again. Actually it revives me because I get bored easily. I like new beginnings.
I write about my personal life but there's still a part of me that's not ready to come out in the clear and become mere words on a page. There's at least some stuff that I need to keep for myself. Out of shame, fear, self-preservation - whatever you want to call it.
So many uncertainties...they push me to start over and get a new identity because you can virtually become anyone on the net right? Another character, a second life, where you don't have to pretend to be what you are not.
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I think that we all need to remember that our blogs are OURS. Write what you want to and do not worry about what anyone may think. I have had a couple different blogs and closed them for different reasons. I have come across people on the internet that I grew to love---only to find out that they were not who they said they were. I was duped by this person as were some very famous people--it was all a big scam and made national headlines..now I am much more cautious. I guess the best advice I can give you is to simply be you. Afterall, that is why we read your blog anyhow!
Oh I'm not afraid of what others might think of me but rather how can one - who wish to harm me - use the info I put out there...you know?
Meh...I suppose that's one question that most bloggers ask themselves, how much do I reveal? What not to reveal? How to come across as fun and warm without being too cold and impersonal either? I stopped asking questions now...
I suppose how much to reveal also depends on why people blog, is it to make friends, to share stuff and ask for opinions, so that they can re-read and reflect on what they previously said/thought, or just out of sheer boredom.
Privacy is dead in this century anyway. Between Facebook, Twitter, blogging, You Tube-ing, Linkedin, reality shows, tabloids, paparazzi etc etc..privacy doesn't truly exist anymore..at least not on the web. But it's a good way to meet new people, new cultures, new ways of thinking, living, experiences, everything.
I think almost every blogger has thought about this once or twice. I think it's important to do what feels right to you. There are plenty of things that I don't write about. I don't feel it's necessary to share everything.
You also have the option of commenting on blogs anonymously. My blog receives a fair amount of anonymous comments. They are not traceable.
Secretia
Well, it is your blog after all. So write about whatever you wanna write about and share as little or as much as you want to share. =) I used to worry about someone I know actually reading my blog because I do write about some embarrassing stuff that has happened to me, and I found out my mom and my cousin actually read my blog. So now, I have to be more careful about what I write about. But really, if they weren't reading my blog, I would definitely write about anything I want.
I know what you mean. I've completely created this alter-ego for my blog. I'm actually Brad Pitt, don't tell anyone though.
Hahaha Christopher I won't!
P.T, I never felt you say too much. Besides, you don't use your full name and you won't be easy to track. I would advise you to keep your Facebook private, I mean not link to it from your blog. That's how I do. I link to Twitter, but it's set to private. That's only for my bloggy friends to add me. There's always ways to become more private online, but you can't be totally.
Believe me, I have haters. You're becoming very popular since I've started to follow you, so be ready for that. In my case, my supporters help. Deleting helps. Most of the time I'm fine with annoying people online, I mean I ignore them until it becomes too much and then I write something. That helps, too. I've had same thoughts last year. The blog becomes part of you, but at the same time, it's not all that you are. You need to find a way to share, but not to much. To reveal but not too much. I very seldom blog about my family and job, if I do, I write between the lines.
We all write here and give strangers the chance to get to know us a bit, we give them pleasure to read something with their morning coffee, we make many friends, but now and then one hurtful comment can throw us out of balance. That's human. But keep on, don't stop. They win, if you back down ;)
I'll support you, if someone dares to attack you. :)
I think about that all the time myself. For the most part I try to keep info that I feel would hurt other people or eventually myself away from my blog. But at the same time you can't please everyone. I do find, however, that I close myself off from my blog at times in fear of exposing who I really am. I guess it's the whole fasade that we're use to putting up in society. When it comes to blogging, I think that you can write what ever you want to write, as long as you can deal with any of the consequences if "certain" people read it. It's all a balance that I think can only be taught through experience.
xo anastasia b
Thank you guys for your kind words. It makes my heart all tingly! :)
It was just a phase and I hope it'll pass...
Eh. You're asking the wrong person... I just lay it all out there and see what happens. ;-)
I think you should give a try cos its your right to express yourself freely without paying attention to what people think...I think that's what worst in life:people judging you...
so you should go ahead and say what you want...
p.s:you call always delete the nasty comments of those internet trolls :)
I kind of feel that way too because my blog is like my personal diary and sometimes I ask myself whether i said too much about myself. Then again, I like it that way so I try not to think in a pessimist way. Your blog is a place where you can reveal part of you. so don't worry about it because you are not the only who does so.
I know what you mean. I feel like deleting my blog like, every month or so :p lol.. I linked my blog to facebook and stupid me, didnt realise I had family there. So now, they read my blog! LOl how stupid am I!! HAHAHAH :S
I have doubts about this all the time, I write what I want. If people like it, it's cool, if not may be they will like the next post.
Silly trolls should go back to their holes under bridges.